Do not be very stiff or very lenient towards your children. Too much affection will make them proud. Excessive stiffness, anger, and punishment will make them desperate, dejected, and even unashamed.
Before inflicting corporal punishment, advise them prudently, control food, get them to kneel on the floor, etc. Do not use bad words while correcting them, for it will only encourage them to deal likewise with their children.
The mother should set an example to the children in honoring and loving their father. So also, the father should show love and respect for the mother. If the parents do not respect each other, neither will their children respect them.
Saint Kuriakose Elias Chavara
Upbringing of children, 9
Saint Kuriakose Elias Chavara was born at Kainakary in Kerala, India, on 10 February 1805
Chavara, K, Pathaplackal, T 2014, Testament of a Loving Father, translated from Malayalam by Calzolari, E, Chavara Central Secretariat, Chavara Hills, Kochi.