From my observations Christ is little known by those who consider themselves his friends. For we see them going about seeking in him their own consolations and satisfactions, loving themselves very much, but not loving him very much by seeking his bitter trials and deaths.
Saint John of the Cross
The Ascent of Mount Carmel II.7.12
John of the Cross, St. 1991, The Collected Works of St. John of the Cross, Revised Edition, translated from the Spanish by Kavanaugh, K and Rodriguez, O with revisions and introductions by Kavanaugh, K, ICS Publications, Washington DC.
Carmelite Quotes 
Very good. Was it our Holy Father who also said, “Who seeks not the Cross of Christ, seeks not the Glory of Christ”?
Something like that!